It is always difficult to overcome the situation of breakup when someone who used to be there or you all the time disappears or leaves that void created is hard to fill up. but it isn’t impossible. you can do it , but you need time . give yourself time , start working on getting to know yourself (introspect) .
Go buy a nice pair of sports shoes for yourself and start to workout or play football or whatever you like. other than that , start hanging out with your best buddiez and if you think you don’t have any … well go shopping again and buy a disco dress and go dancing 😉 socialize and share your story with em and let the booohoo out 🙂 .
and the biggest solution to all .. go see F.R.I.E.N.D.S or GOT I’m sure you’ll be unloaded from the crappy load of tension on your head.
PS heartbreaks are a part of life 😉
To heal a broken heart, it maybe difficult at first, but gradually you will get better with these steps:
1. Find People Who Understand The Depth Of Your Grief
Unfortunately, many people trivialize heartbreak, especially in situations like breakups or the loss of pets. Make sure you turn to people who are understanding.
Surrounding yourself with supportive people can also distract you from the heartbreak. “Use social contacts and events to keep your mind off dwelling and misery,” Winch tells Bustle. “Engage with the people and activities that make you feel like you and connect you to your core.”
2. Go through it, not around it
I realize the most difficult task for a person with a broken heart is to stand still and feel the crack. But that is exactly what she must do. Because no shortcut is without its share of obstructions. Here’s a simple fact: You have to grieve in order to move on. During the 18 months of my severe depression, my therapist repeated almost every visit: “Go through it. Not around it.” Because if I went around some of the issues that were tearing me apart inside, then I would bump into them somewhere down the line, just like being caught in the center of a traffic circle. By going through the intense pain, I eventually surfaced as a stronger person ready to tackle problems head on. Soon the pain lost its stronghold over me.
3. Get the energy out
This is especially needed if you’re feeling a lot of anger. Anger, sadness, anxiety, grief, depression, are all energies that want to be released from your body.
One of the best ways to get the energy out is to get moving. Go for a run while blasting your favorite music through your headphones. Punch a punching bag (seriously, kickboxing class helped me get through A LOT of emotions). Get your sweat on in some way, and do it consistently.
4. Don’t Analyze Why It Happened
In the case of a breakup, many people prolong their heartbreak by trying to figure out why it happened. The partner of one of Winch’s clients gave her a reason, and she still chose to hunt for an alternative explanation rather than believe him. Believe your ex about why they broke up with you, take from it what you need to, and stop analyzing it.
5. Talk to someone who cares
I heard someone say once that 90% of good counseling is just talking out how you feel. It’s amazing how much better you feel when there’s someone you can talk to who totally understands what you’re going through. The person you are sharing with is like a human crutch to help you through a time of brokenness. It’s kind of like when a guy gets hurt on the football field injuring his knee. Two of his teammates get around him and help carry him off the field. That’s what happens when you have a broken heart. When someone is there, they can help strengthen you when you hurt the most.
The people who suffer the most from heartbreak are those who have no one to help them. The wisest man in the Bible, King Solomon, said, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” So find a friend or family member, someone you can trust to keep your secrets and talk it out. You’ll be glad you did.
6. Make a good and bad list
You need to know which activities will make you feel good, and which ones will make you want to toilet paper your ex-lover’s home (or apartment). You won’t really know which activity belongs on which list until you start trying things, but I suspect that things like checking out his wall on Facebook and seeing that he has just posted a photo of his gorgeous new girlfriend is not going to make you feel good, so put that on the “don’t attempt” list, along with e-mails and phone calls to his buddies fishing for information about him. On the “feels peachy” list might be found such ventures as: deleting all of his e-mails and voicemails, pawning off the jewelry he gave you (using the cash for a much-needed massage?), laughing over coffee with a new friend who doesn’t know him from Adam (to ensure his name won’t come up).
7. Give yourself time to heal
If your heart has been broken, it will take time for you to completely heal. At the time of the break-up, almost everyone thinks they will never feel normal again. But God has designed us so we will heal from wounds. It’s amazing to see how our human spirit comes back again. Some people heal faster than others. Some people’s emotions go deeper than others. The deeper your emotions, the longer it will take to heal. But sooner or later you will begin to feel alive again and you will learn to accept this new feeling. Don’t fight the healing process and you will be on your way to smiling again in no time. So be patient with yourself. You will get through this.
8. Turn up the radio
Science suggests that music has a therapeutic effect. (No, not that breakup album with the sad, lovesick songs.) Blare some of your favorite, feel-good tunes: Listening to them can trigger the release of endorphins, lifting your spirits and combating stress.
9. Don’t Avoid Things That Remind You Of Your Ex
Many people will avoid songs that their ex played for them, restaurants where they went on dates, mutual friends, and other reminders of their exes so that they don’t experience the heartbreak all over again. But this will just make you continue to associate these things with your ex, so it’s best to revisit them and build new associations with them.
More generally, don’t let the breakup interfere with your life. “Keep doing the things that used to bring you enjoyment and interest even if they don’t seem interesting and enjoyable,” says Winch. “Going through the motions is an important way to give yourself the message that life goes on.”
10. Live an outstanding life
Get back to your center. Right now get out a piece of paper and write down 10 nurturing things you can do to help you get back to your strong grounded self. Call a friend, set up a coaching session, take a yoga class, buy flowers for yourself, take a bath, go for a long walk while listening to your favorite playlist, clean out your emails, declutter your closet and donate what you no longer need, go to the bookstore and buy Getting the Love You Want, He’s Just Not That Into You, The Breakup Bible to start empowering yourself.
Don’t allow this breakup to continue hurting you by hardening your heart and closing off to new love. Get out there. Meet with friends. Live. Laugh. Love. Be happy.
The secret to getting over a breakup lies within you. If you find yourself continuing down the same path with the same type of guys, then commit to uncovering and healing your patterns.
Keep faith that you will find amazing soul level love. You deserve it.